Sunday, December 21, 2014

Adult Children of Alcoholics--Live Call In Radio Show With Lisa A. Romano 12/27/14 9 a.m. EST

Any of us from dysfunctional families understands how difficult the holidays can be.  Family dynamics can explode with a glance of an eye, or a tapping of a fork.  For those of us with explosive parents, siblings or extended family members, we often need to tone ourselves down just to be able to tolerate the, what seems to be required time needed to be spent with others who absolutely know how to push our buttons.

For this reason I am doing a live radio show this coming Saturday December 27th at 9 a.m.

If you would like to be a part of this live call, just follow the link below.

If you prefer to just listen in, and take some notes that would be awesome as well.

To all my Adult Children out there, hang in there for the Holidays.  We are not alone!

Let's sober up emotionally this coming Saturday at 9 a.m. EST on Blogtalk Radio with Lisa A. Romano.

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Group Coaching Class

Thank you to all who have signed on to participate in my upcoming Group Coaching Class.  I am looking forward to the opportunity to teach you the skills you need to meet some of an ACoA's greatest challenges.

If any of you are interested in taking part in the next class, which will take place in March 2015, please notify me at

Adult Children of Alcoholics-Stop Thinking--Start Doing

If there is one commonality amongst we Adult Children of Alcoholics that holds us back from moving forward in our life more than any other, it is the fact that we tend to get stuck in our damn heads, and ignorantly sit back and act as if we are powerless to their looping.

Over and over we succumb, like paralyzed marionettes to the dysfunctional, nonsensical, unfair, critical, condemning, judging, self pitying, anxiety provoking thoughts that loop in our minds. Most often these thoughts haunt us as we are drifting off to sleep, when sadly our subconscious minds are the most vulnerable to data.  Like an excel sheet waiting to be inputed with data before the closing of a days work, our subconscious minds accept the nonsense of our thoughts and logs it.  While we sleep, our subconscious minds are victims to the only data we falsely believe we have control over.

We ACoA's have been lied to in more ways than most of us realize.

Many of us have been brainwashed to believe we are sinners, and that forgiveness, and salvation are things we mortals must work to achieve.  We have been conditioned to believe that god is some entity out there in the sky somewhere that is keeping a record of our wrongs.  We have been sold a sale of goods for the sake of being able to be controlled by larger super powers seeking to fund unique cash cows for individual agenda's.

Dear Ones, it is not just our parents who have taught us not to believe in the power of Self.

The Truth

The divine truth is there is only a stream of well being and abundance and we are either staying with the flow of that divine power or we are pinching ourselves off from it.

How do we pinch ourselves off from the stream of divinity and abundance?

Whenever you or I fail to act upon our higher guidance, we pinch ourselves off from the very creative power that is responsible for creating the universes themselves.

Why is this lesson so important for Adult Children of Alcoholics?

This information is critical for wounded Adult Children from dysfunctional homes because in order to manifest abundant life experiences--one must first--believe one is worthy of abundance.

And because ACoA's and ACoN's have been minimized, criticized, treated with indifference, abandoned, and abused, our very upbringing has us stained with impressions that have left us feeling unworthy of love, as a result of not having been adequately bonded energetically to both mother and father energies.  Feeling rejected by the beings that created us--causes us to reject self.

The Big Lie

The really, really big lie is--we are not mortal.  We are in fact eternal energetic beings trapped inside physical hides with the ability to flow with the universal stream of abundance or not.

The Really Sad Lie

You and I have been brainwashed to believe we are only worthy when someone else says so.

That's a bunch of B/S Dear One!


Be like the bees, the birds and the trees Dear One...Be you, fly high, and seek only to love--and embrace all that is you--no matter what others say--or do...

Monday, December 8, 2014

Adult Children of Alcoholics--We Are As Sick As Our Alcoholics :(

Post is dedicated to the incredible Robin Williams. Thank you for the laughter you brought to the world.  And I am sorry, you never quite found the words or the ideas you needed to change your world Dear One...

Lisa A. Romano
ACoA Life Coach

On the road to recovery, there have been many twists and turns.

Awareness is as inspiring as it is gut wrenching.

Coming into the understanding that in all my enabling, care-taking, denying, ignoring, justifying, pacifying, complaining, and martyrdom indicated that I was just as sick as the people I thought I was in someway smarter and more moral than, made me feel like I was being torn in two.

As one part of my invisible self began to resonate at a higher vibration, at same time there felt as if humility was in some way dragging me lower than I had ever been before.

Coming through the birth canal of transition and evolution, I can now appreciate how necessary my need for hitting emotional rock bottom was to my total recovery.  But at the time, when my three small children and I were preparing for the biggest shake up of our lives by leaving the home they were born in without their father, rock bottom felt like my entire self was being dragged across broken glass.

From the Eye In The Sky Perspective I can now see that when I was complaining, whining, and throwing tantrums, I was doing so from my stunted emotional inner child's vantage point.  It was not until I was humble and willing enough to accept my responsibility for my own happiness as well as misery, and embraced my higher adult self, that I was able to accept total responsibility for ALL that was going on in my life.

Healing did not happen for me until I first merged with my Higher Self--or my Holy Spirit--the spiritual aspect of my being that is divine and all knowing.

Until we Adult Children of Alcoholics are willing to step into Higher Realms of our Selves--where our divinity resides, we can only heal so much of what has been done to us when we were children.
Some aspect of Mother/Father Self must be strived for and attained in order to help our inner child heal.  Because many 12 step programs are rooted in asking God for help (Father Self), this may be the reason programs work in some cases.

What does work, is discipline.

We Adult Children of Alcoholics need to become disciplined of mind, of spirit, and of body.  Until we embrace the reality that all we need to heal ANYTHING that has been done to us--is already within us--we tend to REACT to our pasts and to our presents as children who still in some way falsely believe that some ONE or some THING out THERE somewhere is going to be able to slap a Band Aid over our boo boos and make it all go away.

No Dear One...this is not the case.

Right there--in every friggin' cell of your BODY is DNA. Divinity Naturally Available as I like to refer to it :)

Yep.  DNA is actually Divinity that is Naturally Available. And until you embrace that idea, you will tend to seek healing from some other source than from your own infinitely intelligent being that is energetically--spiritually connected to all that is.

Quiet the mind Dear One, it is the only way to connect to the Holy Spirit within you--that absolutely knows the way to your healing--as well as to your own salvation.  YOU hold within you Dear One, all the necessary components you need to deliberately create the realities you deserve and desire.

But first Dear One--you must be willing to see your Self from a Higher Self Vantage Point, so that the inner child in you can learn to believe that her/his Higher Self can handle dealing with life in a healthy way.  Your ego self will not let go of the pain of the past until you have successfully integrated with some aspect of your Higher Self.  The ego self/man self will not release the  armor that is pain, until he/she/it fully believes its Higher Self can protect it moving forward with healthy internal as well as external boundaries.

"In You there I Am, and in me, there You are"

Namaste Dear Ones...Namaste..